It’s Not Ok to Pretend to be Ok

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For those of you that know me personally, you know that the last several months to a year of my life have been pretty hectic on a personal level. Depending on the day, it’s sometimes hard express my feelings to those around me. Not because I am afraid of what people will say, but because we live in a world where it’s not cool to not be ok. The sad truth is today’s generation is only about showing the “good stuff”— They don’t want people to know they don’t have it all together. It’s ok to hurt. It’s ok to be stressed out. But it’s not ok to Pretend to be Ok.

In dealing with hurt, pain and a lot of unanswered questions the last year of my life, there are 3 things I’ve learned and I want to share with you.

  1.  It’s Ok to Not Understand—Trust Me this is something I know all to well. There will be somethings in life that will not come with an answer. There will always be things that we aren’t going to understand but it’s ok to not understand. My grandmother told me recently “It’s ok to not understand, sometimes that the first step to becoming ok”. It’s not wrong to admit you don’t understand.
  2.  Cry— It’s not just for babies. There is nothing wrong with crying. End of story. Let it out!
  3. Stress— It’s a part of life. If you don’t get stressed you should probably see a doctor. I’m not saying it’s ok for stress to consume your every thought and every move, but it’s gonna happen. I think one of the biggest things I’ve learned recently is that stress will only last as long as you allow it to. Don’t let stress control you.

Remember, It’s Not Ok to Pretend to be Ok.



  1. Evan,
    Peace to you. Life definetly has its ebbs and flows. FB has a way of exaggerating both sides of life.
    I’m 66 now and have experienced many changes throughout. You are a strong young man and I admire your aptitude to find “your” place in this busy life. Your smile is infectious, and know that smile lifts others up. God made you special and a lot of us agree.
    Thank you for sharing.

  2. Well said my friend!
    -Peace, Love, and EGC ????????????

  3. Helen Norman says

    I needed this. Well said, Evan.

    Thank you!

  4. Danielle says

    I speak out a lot about mental health because I feel like it’s such a taboo topic, especially more in the south it seems. The more we speak out, the less taboo it becomes. You go Glen Coco.


  5. Good words Evan! Thanks for saying what a lot are feeling!

  6. Helen Norman says

    I needed this today. Well said, Evan!

    Thank you,
    Helen Norman

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